#Saynotodomesticviolence
Hi, I am Binogun Winifred Omagbenenuyi and I join millions of people all over the world in saying no to domestic violence. I believe that no human should be subject to such inhumane conditions. I believe that at best violence is only beneficial as a form of self defense or security, in the hands of those who have being trained to protect the lives and properties of citizens. Thanks.
GLORIFICATION OF FEMALE ABUSERS
For years, people have come out to speak against domestic violence in society. Conferences have been held, organizations have been set up and activists have risen up. However, society has decided to sit on the fence in more ways than one. When we talk of domestic violence, the stereotype is of a woman in an abusive relationship. Why? Do people not believe that a man can be abused? Or they assume that a man only allows himself to be abused? I recognize that women are often the subjects of abuse more than men according to statistics and news. However, what if, the men are just not coming out to talk about their experiences?
One problem here is chained to gender stereotypes in most African communities. Where a man is popularly thought to be the head of a home and generally more strong than a woman, people assume that it is impossible for a woman to abuse a man. When such happens, people feel that the man simply allowed the woman to have her way rather than strike her. True, a man may refuse to fight a woman for fear of injuring her but that does not mean that the woman can be absolved of her wrong. Domestic violence isn't always physical, it is also emotional. However, when it is physical, it is not compulsory for wounds or fractures to occur before we say that a person has been abused. Yes, even slaps are wrong.
On the other hand, for a man who is not even strong enough to fight off a woman, it is another round of battles. He has to explain why a woman would be strong enough to beat him to those who are ready to listen and sometimes, mock him. This, is wrong. Why should society glorify a female abuser and call her a strong woman? The answer, is double standards. In my opinion, if a man is called a beast for assaulting a woman, the same should go for the woman. While I state this, I recognize that sometimes there are extreme cases in which the abused stands up to the abuser in self defense. Sometimes, these may lead to severe injuries or even death. Thus, the abused becomes the abuser and vice versa. How can this be prevented? Stay away! Stay away from violent people. If they do it once, they can do it again. Don't cover up because of love, love may not save your life when next the fist comes!
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#Saynotodomesticviolence
Hi, I am Binogun Winifred Omagbenenuyi and I join millions of people all over the world in saying no to domestic violence. I believe that no human should be subject to such inhumane conditions. I believe that at best violence is only beneficial as a form of self defense or security, in the hands of those who have being trained to protect the lives and properties of citizens. Thanks.
GLORIFICATION OF FEMALE ABUSERS
For years, people have come out to speak against domestic violence in society. Conferences have been held, organizations have been set up and activists have risen up. However, society has decided to sit on the fence in more ways than one. When we talk of domestic violence, the stereotype is of a woman in an abusive relationship. Why? Do people not believe that a man can be abused? Or they assume that a man only allows himself to be abused? I recognize that women are often the subjects of abuse more than men according to statistics and news. However, what if, the men are just not coming out to talk about their experiences?
One problem here is chained to gender stereotypes in most African communities. Where a man is popularly thought to be the head of a home and generally more strong than a woman, people assume that it is impossible for a woman to abuse a man. When such happens, people feel that the man simply allowed the woman to have her way rather than strike her. True, a man may refuse to fight a woman for fear of injuring her but that does not mean that the woman can be absolved of her wrong. Domestic violence isn't always physical, it is also emotional. However, when it is physical, it is not compulsory for wounds or fractures to occur before we say that a person has been abused. Yes, even slaps are wrong.
On the other hand, for a man who is not even strong enough to fight off a woman, it is another round of battles. He has to explain why a woman would be strong enough to beat him to those who are ready to listen and sometimes, mock him. This, is wrong. Why should society glorify a female abuser and call her a strong woman? The answer, is double standards. In my opinion, if a man is called a beast for assaulting a woman, the same should go for the woman. While I state this, I recognize that sometimes there are extreme cases in which the abused stands up to the abuser in self defense. Sometimes, these may lead to severe injuries or even death. Thus, the abused becomes the abuser and vice versa. How can this be prevented? Stay away! Stay away from violent people. If they do it once, they can do it again. Don't cover up because of love, love may not save your life when next the fist comes!
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#Saynotodomesticviolence
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